I’ve received two pieces of feedback in the past twenty-four hours.
I was told that I’m a loud talker. (Too loud.) Also, I was reminded that (sometimes) I let my anger get in the way of my ability to reason. Especially when it’s unresolved anger relating to unreasonable people.
I have to laugh at myself because it’s all true. I’m a super-loud talker (especially when I’m drinking and/or on the phone) and I sometimes let my anger get in the way of common sense. I’m better at being calm and assertive than I was in the past; however, these are my reflexive, impulsive tendencies that get the better of me when my defenses are down and I’m not conscious of my behaviors.
I will say that yoga (& running) helps to manage the connection between anger & common sense. Also, my loud talking is really helpful in crowds and bars — where I happen to spend an inordinate amount of time during my unemployment!
PS – I don’t like getting feedback when I’m not getting a paycheck.