I just read an article called, “Loneliness is Deadly: Social isolation kills more people than obesity does—and it’s just as stigmatized.”
I am lucky to have several dear friends in my life. It is tough to be a good friend, though. Social media makes it worse, I think. I have been working harder to be a better friend to the awesome men and women in my life.
Here are some of the things I have learned.
- Ask how your friend is doing. Listen to the first answer. Then ask again. The second answer is the truth.
- Even if you hate talking on the phone, talk on the phone.
- Everyone likes nice birthday gifts but most people prefer regular lunch dates.
- Normal conversation should be a 50/50 mix. Stop talking so much.
- Don’t build a friendship around trauma, pain or spite. If that’s how it started, work hard to help it evolve.
- Time is a currency. Be on time.
- Don’t ask your friends to cut you some slack. Ask your friends to help you figure out why you need slack.
- Pay attention to body language and tone. Half the story is in the delivery.
- People can’t multitask. Don’t text and talk.
- Everyone loves mail. Send a note, send a postcard or send a book.
So many people clamor for meaning and connection in this world. I think — if you have it, don’t blow it.
What am I missing?