And while I believe that two consenting adults should be able to love and marry one another, I don’t think the path to equality goes through marriage.
Marriage can be a great and amazing institution; however, the past 100 years of feminist history reminds us that it can be oppressive, unhealthy and unequal.
- It’s been reported that 3 out of 4 people personally know someone who is or has been a victim of domestic violence.
- Women still do a majority of the housework and child-rearing.
- And it’s not like women are shattering the glass ceiling or breaking apart institutional sexism because they are married. Just ask Sheryl Sandberg who advised women to choose their partners wisely. And what about Ursula Burns who told women to marry older men?
I think it’s great that 2.7 million people changed their Facebook avatars to support heteronormative marriage in the gay community. But it’s not enough to log onto a social networking site and say Gay people! They’re just like us!
There is more work to be done.
If you support marriage equality, it’s time to turn off the computer and get serious about divorce equality, pay equity and worker protection. Fight for equality by recognizing that domestic violence happens in same-sex relationships. When you witness unequal treatment in your life, address it.
And advocate for change on behalf of all men and women who experience discrimination and bigotry in their lives.
Shoot, that’s hard work.
Where’s the Facebook avatar for that?