The Only Competitor You Have Is In Your Head


The #hrtechconf is around the corner and I recently changed my twitter profile to read, “Social Media Strategist. HR Chick. Formidable Career Blogger. Pixie of the Apocalypse. I have no competition.”

I love writing crazy stuff like that because, as little as five years ago, I wouldn’t have dared to think about myself in such a brazen way.

Who was I in 2006?

Well, that’s me. I’ve shown this picture before. I was an unremarkable HR chick. I was dispassionate. I didn’t trust other women. I was scared, I was stuck, and I was irrelevant.

So what’s really different in 2011? Not much. I’m still a scared, stuck, semi-irrelevant chick on the periphery of HR — except I’ve made one major change in my life.

I have stopped competing with other people. Especially women. Fully.

I know most of you won’t believe me. Especially HR chicks. That’s fine. I don’t care because it is true. There is no person out there who has the knowledge, skills, and abilities to replace me in the marketplace. And honestly, I cannot replace a single person I know in the world of Human Resources, technology, blogging, or social media management.

It’s just not possible.

And who would I be competing against? Who would compete against me? Other social media strategists? Other HR chicks? Give me a break. Most of them are my friends.

I have a hard enough time fighting my own internal insecurities. I don’t have time to compete with HR divas and social media gurus. And as I get older, I realize that the only competitor I have is in my head. It’s not some HR chick who steps in my way and holds me back from long-term success. It’s not some social media douche bag who keeps me from being an effective business leader. I fail because of my own fear and insecurity. And when I operate out of fear and insecurity, I always make the wrong decisions.


So when my fears get me down and I start worrying about other people — especially women — weaseling into my territory, I remember that the territory is huge. There is plenty of space for us to roam and be awesome. And we can all succeed.

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